Is BDSM really dark and weird?

  We’ve written before about how certain aspects of BDSM, kinks, and fetishes have reached into society’s mainstream. Celebrities wear latex dresses on the red carpet. Amazon is the world’s largest sex retailer. Thousands of artisans are selling their kinky creations on etsy and even superstars such as Rihanna sing about S/M (complete with duct

Married and Kinky 3, the HKC gets hooked

  Nothing says, “We’re perverted” quite like having his-n-hers anal hooks. That cool, hard ball of stainless steel feels totally kinky as it slips past your sphincter to be tied into place with rope or a strap. Every movement jostles the hook in your ass, reminding you it’s there and you can’t take it out.

Planned intimacy—keeping the sparks flying

  Many of us entered adulthood believing that when you found the perfect partner, intimacy would be easy. Rip off the clothes and passionately embrace, the sparks fly, and, well, you can fill in the rest. Trouble is that too often the passing of time leads to a less intense type of intimacy—the sparks become

Pervertables – they’re everywhere!

  Pervertables are things we use in everyday life that can also turn into  kinky toys. These naughty little helpers are stashed away in the kitchen, the bathroom, and in many other corners of your house or flat. You only need the imagination to find and incorporate pervertables into your S/M play. It’s right between your

You’re not too old to get your kink on

  A few days ago we read about a 50 year old woman wondering if she was too old to start in BDSM. She wasn’t sure what to do or how to start. We gave her some information and encouragement based on our own story of beginning our kinky journey at the same age. In

You are such a good boy.

  My wife Amelie is incredible as a Domme and she wears the cloak of power with style and grace. We generally switch between roles for each play session, but I know that Amelie finds dominance to be extremely seductive and arousing. She’s also damned good at it and her technique with our kinky toys

Married and Kinky 2, Learning from Nina

  Nina Hartley rocks! Yes, I know, everybody who ever watched her porn videos knows that. But for Amelie and me, Nina is so awesome because of her couples DVDs. Pretty soon after we decided to try kink, we stumbled on her DVD “Nina Hartley’s Guide to Bondage Sex”. So we ordered this DVD and watched

Review of the Sex & Mischief Faux Leather XOXO Spanking Paddle

  The Sex & Mischief Faux Leather XOXO Spanking Paddle is a fun toy for BDSM beginners. We bought ours a long while ago and still play with it. You can’t find a toy that’s easier to use and it’s great for light play. This is also a good choice when storage space for kinky toys

Review of The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy

  As you can see from the attached photo, The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy by Violet Blue is one of our favorite books. She’s a very well known sex educator and blogger this book is a showcase for the quality of her writing. Not only is this a good read, but it’s full of great information whether you’re

Consent, trust, and respect – the traffic signal of S/M

   Several days ago we wrote about consent and how important it is. We would like to go back to that topic today. There are some kinky advice groups on Reddit that we participate in. Just in the past couple of days we’ve read posts from several women who were playing with casual partners that