Masturbation is one of those subjects many people feel uncomfortable talking about. Oddly enough though, it ranks among the most common forms of sex. We think it’s time that mutual masturbation (aka jacking and jilling) came out of the closet and into the repertoire of kinky couples everywhere.
You remember the old adage about two kinds of people – those who play with themselves, and those who lie about it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with jerking off, so why keep it in the closet? It feels great and is a perfect way for couples to connect in a no-stress environment.
It’s incredibly erotic to watch each other masturbating. The energy is palpable and we get turned on just thinking about our next j & j date. They’re great for weeknights when we’re tired but horny. Maybe we don’t have the energy to fuck, but want some intimate time together. It could be that we’ve found a kinky video and can’t wait to check it out.
I can’t let my ____ see me wanking!
It’s very common to feel embarrassed about masturbating in front of partners. But couples see each other in all sorts of private activities. It might feel weird at first so patience and confidence are important. But once the orgasms hit, all that will disappear. We almost always play with sex toys, especially our Doxy Wand. You can bring a little gear or a lot. That’s the beautiful thing, because there’s no pressure.
Here are some fun ideas that you can try when jacking and jilling:
- Start with deep breathing in unison to relax and find your groove.
- Lie with your butts together and grind against each other with your legs all mixed up.
- Start slowly and build toward coming together. (This is really hot!)
- Play with a sex toy that works on you both at the same time (works best when your butts are touching).
Show and tell
If you and your partner(s) are in a new-ish relationship, or just getting in touch with yourselves, jacking and jilling is a great way to connect. You can show each other exactly what trips your erotic triggers and how you like to be touched. Because there’s no performance pressure, you’re free to be your most private self while you play.
Check out some porn
Countless people do it while watching porn. Why not get together and get off to your favorite naughty videos? Just like getting yourself off is fine, so is ethical porn. Spend some time finding just the right sort of smut you both enjoy and make a date.
You might be wondering why not just fuck instead of masturbating together. It’s a fair question, but we think they each offer a unique experience. The emotions and sensations are different, and both are totally hot.
Oh, and lock the door.
Yours in kink, the hkc